When We Are Spiritually Stuck

We read the Bible and envy the fact that God walked in the garden with Adam and Eve, personally confronted Moses in the fiery bush, spoke from the whirlwind to Job, and called to Samuel in the dark. Over and over and over again we see accounts where God seemed so tangible. Within reach. Let’s be honest, it doesn’t quite seem fair.

Maybe you find yourself in an invisible stuck place today, unable to make space for God to penetrate the deep recesses of your soul. You want to make God a priority in your life, yet struggle to overcome. There are disappointments, bitterness, worries, sadness, and struggles that seem to take preeminence. Barging right on in.

God seems so far away.

God spoke through dreams, and writing on the wall, and from a thunderous cloud…and to Saul on the road to Damascus with a blinding light. And I believe that God is still capable of such wonders today. However, in our hope for the supernatural, unexpected, extraordinary miracle…we forget that the road is often hard. We may have the misconception that being a Christian translates to a life of ease. And due to this false notion, we wait to go to God until we have our life cleaned up. Ducks in a row. All prettied up and tied with a bow.

We must realize that God is after more than neat, pretty packages. He is okay with messy lives too. We must admit that we need God just as we are. Times of spiritual dryness are normal, not an anomaly. There is no need for you to pretend.

As believers, we all experience such times. The sermon seems boring and your thoughts are drifting afar. The worship music seems endless and you can’t wait to sit down. You read the Bible and it seems like an empty chore. Small groups. Christian articles. Times of prayer. Nothing seems to break through the cadence of your routine life.

You may feel the uncomfortable distance widening between who you know you are and the Christian you pretend to be. The guilt and tension are rising, but you are not sure where to begin.

Start with some honesty. Tell God exactly how you feel. Confess your wandering soul. Sometimes as we dig within, we find the root of our sin. I wish I could give you a neat, tidy answer…but in this instance, there is not a “one-size-fits-all.” Somewhere within us lies some misplaced expectations, appalling apathy, buried hurts, or raw disappointment.

But here is the good news…we have a God who is unsurprised by our indifference and has unrelentlessly set His affection upon us before the beginning of time! He has shown His commitment to you by sending Jesus! He is devoted to you for the long-haul.

We can find freedom in being real with God. Go ahead and confess how you feel to Him. Talk it out. By unraveling our emotions, we begin to connect the dots between the truth of who God is versus how we feel. It is easy to get lost in this dissonance, but I promise you…it is worth fighting through!

Remind yourself of God’s faithfulness. No one knows you better than God Himself. What you are experiencing today does not come as a surprise to God. God knows your most desperate situation, your deepest longings, your silent cries, your biggest disappointments, your personal shortcomings, your loneliness moments, your painful rejections, and your greatest doubts. He knows it all. It doesn’t take Him off guard. And there is not a single thought or emotion that has not been covered by the blood of Christ.

It is God who purposed to put breath in your lungs this very day (Job 33:4). God has set aside good works for you to do (Eph. 2:10). His grace is sufficient for you (2 Cor. 12:9).

Receive God’s love. You were bought for a price because God loves you. You were worth dying for. He hasn’t stopped loving you. It is a continuous, unending, every single day kind of love. On days when we don’t deserve it. On days when we give God the cold shoulder. Let’s not forget that God loves us even then.

God is able to pull you through this lull. You are not the only one who has been in a stuck place before. Meditate on the words of David. Ask God to do it for you!

I waited patiently for the LORD;
he inclined to me and heard my cry.
2He drew me up from the pit of destruction,
out of the miry bog,
and set my feet upon a rock,
making my steps secure.
3He put a new song in my mouth,
a song of praise to our God.
Many will see and fear,
and put their trust in the LORD.

Psalm 40:1-3



How Can We Hear the Voice of God?

If God tells us to listen to His Son, then it must be possible for us to hear Him. God would not instruct us to do something that is impossible for us to do. But that being said, I know that we often struggle to discern whether or not we are hearing the voice of God. Sometimes it doesn’t seem all that clear.

For starters, in order to hear the voice of God, we must belong to Him. Jesus promises that His sheep HEAR him, FOLLOW him, and are KNOWN by him (John 10:27). We belong to Jesus if we have been saved by grace. As His, we are promised that we will recognize His voice. 

The primary way we hear the voice of God is through His Word. When Matthew, Mark, Luke, James, and John sat down to pen Scripture, God Himself inspired them. Scripture is not man-made. It is not social hype. It is not a boring account of history. It is relevant to each and every one of us today. We can be assured that Scripture is the living, breathing word of God and we must spend time in the Word if we want to hear from Him.

Jesus is the living Word. As you read Scripture, ask God to speak to you. To speak life into your current circumstances. To bring His Word alive. God’s will never contradicts His Word.

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made. In him was life, and the life was the light of men. John 1:1-4



Although Scripture was penned over 2,000 years ago, it is still alive and active. It pertains to whatever you are facing today. At this very moment. It can shed light on your most difficult struggle. It can breath fresh life into your dry bones. It can cause you to rise up, and walk again. As you read, expect God to speak to you. 

 “All that the Father has is mine; therefore I said that he will take what is mine and declare it to you.” John 16:15


“For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12

“For no prophecy was ever produced by the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.” 2 Peter 1:21

“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,” 2 Timothy 3:16


In the creation account found in Genesis 1, we are told that God spoke the whole world into existence. He spoke and it was done. However, God wasn’t finished. He still speaks to us today in the here and now. In Hebrews 4:12 we are told, “the word of God is alive and active.” This means God’s Word exposes our doubt, unbelief, and hidden sin. God’s Word is personal and intimate and when we read it, we hear the voice of God. Authoritatively. Unmistakably. Cutting right to our core.


Have you ever stopped to consider how incredibly powerful the breath of God must be? Do you believe there is power in His Word? Ask God to speak to you right now. And then, start believing that He can. Ask God to raise up your dry bones.


Happy Easter!

IMG_9904May we be reminded that our Savior is risen. He is not dead! No grave could hold him in the ground. He reigns on high…and is worth living for.

You are loved by God Himself!



The Biggest Mistake Made in Prayer

Prayer clearly is important! Prayer and praise are referenced 375 times and 377 times, respectively, in Scripture. As believers, we know we are supposed to pray. Yet, prayer remains such a mystery.

Not surprisingly, there are many misconceptions about prayer. Perhaps even without our acknowledgment, our prayers are wrongly motivated. However, one of the most detrimental mistakes we can make is to treat prayer as a “Honey Do” list for God. To erroneously view prayer as a means to get what we want. We focus on our request rather than on God, and in doing so, lose sight of Him. Our need becomes the center of attention, minimizing the greatness of our Almighty God.

As I reflect on my prayer life over the years, it is obvious that my mindset has often been giving God a list of orders and commands. I would tell God how I wanted things done, and then wait for Him to perform. Sometimes, God would answer my prayers according to my plan. Sometimes, He would say no. Naively, the context of my prayers was limited to a list for which I wanted answers. And over time, when my prayers were not answered according to my liking, I became disappointed and frustrated with God.

You see, unknowingly, I had put limitations on God. My prayers consisted of my list of needs, rather than seeing God might have a better answer. I presented my request and then would ask God to meet it. If He did not act quickly, I would jump in to lend a helping hand.

Like a pharmacy counter, I wanted my prescription filled exactly as I intended. Leaving God no wiggle room.

Prayer does encompass making our requests known to God, but not because He doesn’t already know it. “Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.” Matthew 6:8 God always knows what is best, and He has the power to do it! When feelings of helplessness overwhelm us, may we be reminded that we serve a great big God and we need Him! The real acid test of faith comes from leaving our hands out of a situation and allowing God to do as He pleases.

Prayer is bigger than a list.

God is capable of doing “far more abundantly than we ask or think” (Ephesians 3:20). Why then, should we tell Him how? Maybe He has something much grander in mind. Maybe He has a greater purpose.


Think about your current prayer requests. How would you like to see your current needs answered? Do you have an unwarranted expectation of God?


Will God Change Me?

Prayer and faith go hand-in-hand. The promise underlying all prayer is that God has promised to accomplish in you what He requires of you. He is doing a work in you right now. Life change begins with God. It is a work of God that is accomplished in us through the work of the Holy Spirit (read more about life change HERE). Philippians 1:6 reminds us that God will finish what He began.

“And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” Phi. 1:6

God has great purpose for you today. Let me say that again…God has great purpose for you today. Embrace whatever you face throughout your day with great resolve, knowing full well that God has purposed for you to live every moment. He is directing your steps. Ask Him to bring to remembrance “every good and perfect gift” and to rejoice in whatever comes your way. Ask Him to mold and shape you in life’s most challenging moments.

“This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:24

If we want to know God more, we will have to be deliberate in our actions. Through the process of prayer, God is changing us from one degree of glory to another. Hallelujah! That should give us reason to break out in resounding praise. God has promised Himself to us by the blood covenant of Jesus. What He says will be done. He is fashioning us into His unique and precious design. He is preparing our hearts to receive His answer. He is making us His dwelling place here on earth. Read the verse below and pay attention to what God says He will do.


“And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes and be careful to obey my rules.” Ezekiel 36:26-27

God will. God will take our old, tattered, resistant spirit and give us a heart like Him.

God will remove our dead, burdened, and heavy heart of stone and give us a heart like Him. God will put His very own Spirit…the Spirit of God…inside of us. Imagine it, will you? One of the greatest promises in Scripture is that God is making us more like Him!


How do you see God changing you? In what additional areas would you like to be changed?


You Can Know God Personally

God’s Word is chock-full of astounding promises and today we will take a look at a few. Knowing God at a deep, intimate level grows out of a relationship with Him. The kind of relationship that develops over time by walking through the journey of life. Through the highs and the lows, the valleys, and mountains. If we want to know God in this way, we will need to intentionally set aside time to spend with Him.

Relationship doesn’t just happen. It is no accident.

I’m talking about being deliberate.

And it’s not always easy.

When the going gets tough, we often get jolted. We don’t want to work things through when we don’t see eye-to-eye. But I promise you, it is worth the hard stuff. The kind of rich, deep, satisfying relationship that we all long and dream for is available to us if we pursue God with all of our heart, soul, and mind.

God wants to have a relationship with YOU!


When talking about His people, the Israelites, in the Old Testament, we are reminded of the sweet relationship God has with His children. He carries you during tough times.

Deuteronomy 1:31, “The LORD your God who goes before you will himself fight for you, just as he did for you in Egypt before your eyes, and in the wilderness, where you have seen how the LORD your God carried you, as a man carries his son, all the way that you went until you came to this place.’


We don’t need to worry about what to say or do when confronted by others for the sake of the Gospel. God will give us the words to say. 

Matthew 10:20, “For it is not you who speak, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you.”

God considers you part of His family…as dear as His mother, brother, or sister. What an extraordinary promise to be called a child of God!

Matthew 12:50, “For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”

God has chosen to give you His Kingdom. You have been appointed to eternal life!

Luke 12:30-32, “For all these things the nations of the world eagerly seek; but your Father knows that you need these things. “But seek His kingdom, and these things will be added to you. “Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has chosen gladly to give you the kingdom.”

I hope you noticed one thing in particular…every single promise is hinged to a relationship requirement. God’s promises are tied to a requirement: we must know Him. His guarantees are directed to those He calls “children of God.”

The church cannot be healthy without holding tightly to God’s Word and to sound doctrine. Methods may change but the Bible must remain. And not just opened but pored over. Studied. The Bride of Christ will grow sick and weak without it. (Beth Moore, “Entrusted”.

My friends, we’ve gotta dig into God’s Word in order to know Him. No longer can we survive with a watered down, mixed up, homemade remedy that some have strewn together on their own. God’s Word is God’s Word. We cannot piecemeal it together, picking out the pieces that we like. The Gospel should not be treated like a buffet line. It is time for this generation to rise up…be diligent and prove faithful.

And if we do, we have one incredible promise…we will know God for ourselves!

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What is God teaching you? What truth from God’s Word has resonated with you this past week?



10 Must-Read Lessons from Motherhood

Hey Readers,

I’ve had several of you ask about my lack of blog posting as of late. I haven’t abandoned you! I’ve just been caught up in the whirlwind of busyness. And one thing I have learned over the past sixteen years of ministry is that my family takes priority. As a mom, I am blessed with the God-given calling to bear the title, MOM. My kids need me.

It would be much more glorious to pursue initiatives where I can receive an occasional pat on the back. But truth be told, I’ve probably learned more from swapping up spilled milk and sitting in traffic as I carpool little ones to-and-fro.

There are many lessons that have come from motherhood.

Patience really is a virtue. It is not something that comes naturally and must be cultivated by life’s own challenging circumstances over the course of time. 

I’ve learned that middle-school boys smell like sweat about 98.9% of the time.

Maybe don’t get a dog. Or at least not a puppy. Unless you are ready to say goodbye to your favorite pair of shoes. Besides, as much as your kids promise to feed the dog and walk her regularly…they will fail. There will be some broken promises in the end. But regardless, despite the agony of dog-training…you might end up with a new best friend. 

I’ve learned humility by following after some well-taught advice from a mentoring mom I once had. She told me true JOY is discovered by putting life in proper perspective: Jesus, Others, and then You. 

I realized that when you mess up, you can ask your kids for forgiveness. They have the biggest hearts. Modeling confession and forgiveness goes a long ways.

I’ve seen myself through a different lens…and I haven’t always liked what I see. Selfishness. Pride. A short fuse. Parenting opens your eyes to see where there is still some work to be done in your own life. 

Girl drama is temporary. The season will pass. And you will enjoy reliving memories later on.

Make home your safe place for your kiddos to be real…and to know that regardless of what happens, they will be loved.

Don’t neglect your relationship with your spouse. He is important too! Date nights are necessary to nurture intimacy. You will be glad in the long run.

God always comes first. Pursue Him with all of your heart, soul, and mind and everything else will fall into place. 

I promise I will be back soon! If you’re looking for more…may I point you HERE to my latest guest blog at Lift Up Your Day, “Why is Confession Important?”


Your friend on the journey,

Sue A. Allen

What lessons have you learned from parenting?


Do You Find it Difficult to Pray?

We often miss it. We put the focus on us, rather than on God. We think we have to be perfect. More righteous. Our ducks all lined up in a row. If someone else appears to have their prayers consistently answered, we want to know their method. Their secret. Their tips. And we line up to buy their best-selling book on prayer. We assume we can strip down the frivolous and somehow reproduce results.


We mimic.


And we try.


But in our vain attempt to get answers from God, we erroneously misplace attention on ourselves. As if somehow our own righteousness bestows an answer. If we can be holier than thou, our prayers will be heard. But God teaches us that prayer is not meant to be about us. Prayer is to be who we are. We are to be people who pray.


“Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing praise. Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is workingJames 5:13-16


“The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working” (James 5:16b) because prayer works. When we pray, God IS working. God hears his people and acts on our behalf. The point James is making in this text is to encourage us to keep praying. In all circumstances. Good and bad. Because prayer is effective. It is not how we pray, but more importantly, the act of prayer. We need to be intentional prayers’.


What we say. When we say. How we say. This is not the main point here…the point is that we say. Period. That we say prayers to God our heavenly Father and keep in constant communion with Him. Even when He seems distant and far away, unmovable and static. We pray so that we can know God and know Him more. We pray so doubt does not settle in. We openly confess our struggles.


And then we wait. We wait for God to reveal Himself to us as only He can. Nobody wants to pray to a phony, artificial, unreal god. Nobody. We want to feel and relate to a God we know. After all, He knows us. He knows our thoughts and our actions better than we even know ourselves. Nobody knows us as well as God…so we can all stop pretending and be real about who we truly are.

We overestimate our own abilities when we neglect prayer. And we grossly underestimate the power of the Enemy.

How would our prayer lives change if God became the center of our focus? What consumes most of your prayer time?






Can I Love God More Than Anything Else?

A few months ago, I sat alone on my back patio with my Bible spewed open on my lap, with a cup of jo within arm’s reach. It was a time of solitude, which in Christian circles is referred to as a quiet time. As I sat there, breathing in the fresh air and taking in the utter beauty of singing birds and fluttering butterflies, I began conversing with God. One simple request kept floating through my mind:

“Lord, teach me to pray.”

Now, of course, I knew how to pray. Anyone can pray. But what I was really after was a desire to know God more. To know Him in such a way that my heart affections are emotionally stirred. To be able to sit still for a mere moment and hear His voice. To be more keenly aware of His presence in the reality of this thing called life.

I wanted to be moved by prayer.

I wanted to be changed by prayer.

I wanted to know God more.

What does your prayer life look like?

The book of Job is named after a man who suffered greatly. In one ordinary day, he lost everything. His livestock, his servants, and his ten children. Gone. Completely destroyed. In response, we see Job tear his clothing and shave his head as he begins the arduous process of mourning. Unfortunately, Satan isn’t finished reeking havoc and returns by inflicting Job with hideous, unbearable skin sores. His face was so disfigured that his closest friends did not readily recognize him and when they came closer, they fell to the ground in pity (Job 2:12). The pain was so excruciating, we see Job asking God to take his life (Job 3).

At this point in the story, his wife casts blame on God and urges her husband to do the same. Put yourself in her shoes. In one day you lose all of your babies who you nursed and held tightly in your arms. You become homeless without a single belonging to your name. You are hungry, forced to beg outside of the town dump. Riches to rags in a matter of minutes. Your worse nightmare becoming your new reality.

How would you respond?


Something extraordinary should be noted. In the midst of calamity and uncertainty, Job never turns away from God or denies His existence. We watch him wrestle with God in the midst of his suffering through prayer. We hear his complaints as he cries out to God for help. We can feel this man’s pain as we skim the pages.

As we ponder the book of Job, one must wonder, “Is it possible to love God and God alone? Is He truly all that I need?” Could I live without lattes and pedicures and an occasional shopping spree? Could I bear the thought of losing my home, and all of my financial security? Could I stand being ugly…to the point where no one even recognized me…or would I bow my head in shame and dismay? And what if I lost my family?

Would I still be able to say, “God, I love you more than anything?”


The only way Job survived such catastrophic events was by living a life of prayer. We watch his faith mature and his view of God expand in the book of Job. A man who once was filled with grumbling and complaining is moved to confession and repentance. A man who repeatedly makes his appeal before the Lord becomes overwhelmed in awe with the presence of God.

We see Job move away from merely a head knowledge of who God is towards a personal, intimate relationship. God is no longer someone Job only reads about in the books of the Law. God is someone Job personally knows and has experienced.

“My ears had heard of you
but now my eyes have seen you.”

Job 42:5

Be encouraged…you CAN love God more than anything in this world! Our faith CAN deepen through the good and the bad.



Hey Mom, You Don’t Have to be Perfect!


We drove up to school and as I glanced back through my rear view window, I noticed that his shirt is splattered with ketchup. My son. He loves ketchup. Red. Messy gunk. Smeared everywhere. It is considered a household staple.

We eat it at breakfast.

We eat it at lunch.

And for afternoon snack time.

I hope it is considered a vegetable. When we walk into Chikfila, they know us. They know my son wants 10 packs of ketchup and water. I know…it’s weird.

I had a decision to make. I could either turn around, head towards home, and get him a change of clothes. Of course, that would make everyone tardy. Or, he could go to school with a splattered red shirt.

I chose the splattered red shirt. After all, I am a mother of four. And no longer am I concerned that I won’t win the “Mother of the Year” award. It was a far-fetched idea from the onset. I’m okay that my kid’s socks don’t match and pants are worn backwards occasionally and shoes are tied in a tangled mess of knots. Teeth aren’t always brushed in the morning and their hair can be sorta snarly…but at least they know they are loved.

I apologize to the teachers of my kids in advance. They don’t always wear deodorant and smell like lilacs. They may even be missing a button. But today’s blog isn’t for teachers (who I do adore by the way)…it is for my mom friends who need to know they don’t have to be perfect.

Kids can be kids and we can enjoy them. Our houses don’t have to always be tidy. We can find smeared jelly under the couch cushion and smile because some little body calls this place home.

God has entrusted us with these little people who grow up way too fast and suddenly look more like giants.

“But I am not ashamed, for I know whom I have believed, and I am convinced that he is able to guard until that day what has been entrusted to me.” 2 Timothy 1:12

Enjoy your kiddos today.

Give them a hug.

God has entrusted them to you with great purpose.


What lesson has God recently taught you through your kids?



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